Sometimes, desire just gets lost on its way – the longer the relationship or marriage, the higher the risk that your sex life will become a dull, routine task.
Nonetheless, this does not have to be a general rule, and you can easily prevent it from happening. If you have noticed that most or all of your relationships slowly start to fade away at a certain point, then now more than ever before, it is important to take the matter into your own hands if you want to reignite the spark.
It often happens that a couple lacks intimacy and “fireworks” because of bad communication – they do not talk to each other enough, and communication is essential. That being said, here you will find three guaranteed ways that will help you spice things up in the bedroom and “kick start” your romantic life before you even know it.
1. Identify The Erotic Elements In Your Life
One of the first and most important things that you need to do is to identify what is erotic and what is not. Generally speaking, when a couple’s sex life improves, so does their relationship: their connection becomes stronger, they are more passionate and they care more about each other – in other words, all the small problems from the past simply start to fade away. And that is perfectly understandable, as everybody tends to be happy when they have good sex!
That being said, the notion of “erotic” refers to all the things that heighten your sensation, that arouse you to a certain level. For some of us, it can be a beautiful image of a landscape, something that although has no connection to adult movies or pornography whatsoever, still arouses us and makes us feel good.
2. Know The Elements That Turn You Off And On
Now that you have managed to identify what makes you feel good and can create the perfect setting for an unforgettable evening with your significant other, the next thing is to know what turns you on or off – or, better said, to remember these elements. Eroticism and sex lay at the basis of every healthy and long- lasting relationship, and without the elements that “put you in the mood” for a good time, you cannot get started. It is like trying to start a car without gasoline – it just won’t work!
These elements are typically spontaneous and mysterious but, most importantly, they are beautiful and they awake long-forgotten feelings inside of you. Once you have identified everything that arouses you and turns you on or off, ask your partner to do the same and then simply swap lists. For instance, these elements can be part of a specific fetish or sexual fantasy.
3. Make Pleasure And Desire The Foundation Of Your Relationship And Marriage
There are three things that every couple should have for a healthy, blossoming and mutually beneficial relationship: flawless communication, honesty and good sex. These are the key ingredients for a stable, predictable and secure relationship, one that will withstand the test of time.
Everybody deserves to feel loved and appreciated, and just because time passes by and things have changed in your life or relationship, this does not mean that you no longer have the right to enjoy a nourishing, energetic and passionate sex life that will revive every single cell in your body!